In our society, when someone thinks about a second marriage, they often become anxious. This anxiety mainly stems from social pressure and societal norms. People worry about what others will say if they marry again. But we must remember that having more than one marriage is a Sunnah of the Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), and it holds countless wisdoms.
Islamic Perspective:
In the light of the Qur’an and Sunnah, permission for more than one marriage is granted, and its purpose is to solve various social and psychological issues. Allah Almighty says:
“And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphans, then marry those that please you of [other] women—two or three or four.”
(Surah An-Nisa: 3)
(Translation by Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani)
This verse clearly states that a Muslim has the right to have more than one wife, provided he deals justly among them.
Impact of Social Pressure:
The fear and concern surrounding a second marriage are mainly due to social pressure. People often think about how their first wife or children will react, or how they will be perceived in social circles. However, we need to understand that we have the right to make our own decisions. With the intention of pleasing Allah, we should fulfill our legitimate needs within the boundaries of Shariah. Worrying about people’s opinions only leads to self-torment.
After the Wife’s Death:
When a man’s first wife passes away, many hesitate to remarry. They fear public opinion, but the truth is, it can be tough for a man to live without a spouse. Shariah allows us to remarry so that we can fulfill our needs and also build a family.
Mental and Emotional Benefits:
Second marriage brings many mental and emotional benefits. Living with a partner brings love, happiness, and peace. If someone marries again, it not only improves their own life but also provides their children with a new mother who can assist in their upbringing.
Conclusion:
Second marriage is a golden opportunity to seek Allah’s pleasure and ensure the well-being of our family. We should make our own decisions without fearing what others will say. Embrace the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and focus on pleasing Allah. Life is short, and we should aim to make wise decisions in it. You can also read about Heaven in Islam here.
A Book on This Topic: “Second Marriage”
This book elaborates on Islamic rulings regarding multiple marriages and provides all the information a Muslim may need when considering a second marriage.
Features of the Book:
- Islamic Rulings: It presents clear rulings on polygamy in the light of the Qur’an and Sunnah so readers can understand Islamic teachings.
- Rights of Wives: It discusses in detail how to protect the rights of each wife, so that life can be lived on the basis of justice and equality.
- Justice and Fairness: The book emphasizes the practical application of justice and explains how a man should treat his wives.
- Financial Matters: It provides practical ways to resolve financial issues like dowry (mahr), residence, and maintenance to ensure peace and satisfaction from all aspects.
- Contemporary Challenges: It also addresses modern-day challenges and difficulties related to polygamy and offers ways to deal with them.
This book is for both those intending to marry again and those seeking knowledge on the subject.
The book “Second Marriage” provides a clear path to making your decisions in accordance with Islamic teachings.
FAQs
Is a second marriage permissible in Islam?
Yes, Islam permits a second marriage. According to the Qur’an (Surah An-Nisa: 3), a Muslim man may marry up to four women, provided he treats them all with justice and fairness. This is part of the Sunnah and serves social and emotional purposes within Islamic guidelines.
What are the conditions for having more than one wife in Islam?
The primary condition is justice among wives. A man must provide equal treatment in terms of financial support, emotional care, and time spent with each wife. If he fears he cannot maintain justice, it is better to remain with one wife.
Are there any benefits to a second marriage apart from religious fulfillment?
Yes, a second marriage can offer emotional, psychological, and familial benefits. It can bring companionship, help form a stable family unit, and provide children with additional care and upbringing support, especially in cases of widowhood or separation.
